I appreciate your honesty and don’t know your church but it seems your paranoia and straight phobia have gotten the best of you. All true Christians believe that scripture places adultery of all kinds in the category of sin along with anger, bias, etc. but there are some sins (actions opposed to God’s will), that hurt people and society more than others. Christians I know wouldn’t condemn you but would counsel you about your lifestyle hoping for renewal in your life. We are not living by rules and religion but by spiritual life and death. Christ came not to set up a religion but to offer us freedom from what enslaves us. I pray you find the real Christ and the body of Christ He is building.